Post 277: A Valentine Day de-bunking – Love in Musicals , Little Black Dress: All Female Show, Women in Green WHITE ELEPHANT SALE Monday March 14th 2016 in the Hall of the Yisa Bracha Shul at 31 Jabotinsky Street Jerusalem from 10 am – 6 pm – A great Purim idea – Costume Factory at The Open Studio -Pie by Yochevet Golani

Thank you for your patience. The impossible has happened. The connection was made for internet. There are still some kinks to work out.

This post originally was intended to run and “un-mark” of over a month ago. the Hallmark holiday, Valentine’s Day, which we Orthodox Jews, don’t celebrate.

“Not to be a romantic spoiler, there is a grim, long forgotten reason for Jews not to rush out to invest in lingerie or make dinner reservations. According to Cecil Roth in his classic ‘The Jewish Book of Days’, it was on this day in 1349 that the Massacre of Strasbourg took place, perhaps the worst of the many anti-Jewish outrages that occurred during the Black Death. The locals had blamed fluctuations in the price of corn on the Jews, whom they suspected of being protected by the city council.
It was on February 14th that a mob barricaded the Judengasse (Street of the Jews) and drove the whole Jewish community into the cemetery where they built a huge pyre. About two thousand Jewish men, women and children were burned to death.
A new council was installed shortly after, and officially barred Jews from the city for a century. As it happens, this ban was eased 20 years later.
Among the spoils of that day was a shofar the mob had found in the main synagogue. This find confirmed the suspicions of the townsfolk: it was, they said, prepared by the Jews in order to betray the city. By blowing it, the Jews would be able to signal their unnamed allies lurking outside the city walls.
For many years after, the so-called ‘Judenblos’ was blown each evening on a ‘grusselhorn’, an imitation shofar, as a warning to any Jews within the city limits to depart before nightfall, and also as a reminder to the townspeople of their ‘miraculous’ rescue from the machinations of the devious Jews.
Jews could be forgiven then for choosing to skip Valentines. That’s not to suggest however that romance is lacking in the lives of Hebrews: The 15th day of the month of Av. Commonly known as Too b’Av, this is the Jewish love-fest. It’s just as ancient as the Roman Lupercalia and at least as erotic as the Catholic Valentines.

Uzi Silber
Haaretz Contributor
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My take on this “holiday” is WATCH OUT women, for a “fast talker”. Shakespeare cautions with a remark by Valentine. 

“That man that hath a tongue, I say is no man,
If with his tongue he cannot win a woman.” From The Two Gentlemen of Verona (III, i, 104-105) 

My father, (OBM) Max Feuerman was not the winning woman kind of fellow. He smiled to all including women neighbors. That’s just menschlishkeit. He often used the term “Sweets to the Sweet”, not particularly on February 14th but the words wafted around me.

I decided to check e-notes on the quote: Sweets to the sweet; Often those words are paired with an extended hand.

What, the fair Ophelia!

[Scattering flowers] Sweets to the sweet, farewell!
I hop’d thou shouldst have been my Hamlet’s wife:
I thought thy bride-bed to have deck’d, sweet maid,
And not have strew’d thy grave.
Hamlet Act 5, scene 1, 242–246

When Hamlet’s mother, the queen, delivers “Sweets to the sweet,” she’s not bearing a hostess gift or offering candy to her date. The queen’s “sweets” are funeral bouquets scattered in the grave of Ophelia, Hamlet’s former flame.

“The prince, who has just finished addressing the skull of Yorick (ALAS, POOR YORICK), stumbles upon the funeral, ignorant that Ophelia has likely committed suicide. The murder of her father had driven Ophelia mad; Hamlet was the murderer, and the queen a witness. This is all bad enough. But the queen’s mournful nostalgia for her son’s courtship of this deceased “sweet” is all the more disturbing in light of Hamlet’s somewhat over-arduous attachment to his mother.

It’s therefore ironic that “sweets to the sweet” has become a corny quotation for those special romantic moments. How effective the line proves depends on how vividly one’s “sweet” is likely to recall the graveyard scene in Hamlet.” These words may be most appropriate when offered with a cold  stare and a brush-off.

Looking back, my father used this quote to offset an upset afflicting my mom, and the “sweet” was a kind heartfelt word to cheer her up.

Are soothing words really self serving?

Are they really just “words”, that a “con artist” gushes at a difficult uncomfortable moment?

Lesson that Musicals offer on love-Watch out for that mendacious, villain and his venal ways. Only in Cinderella

“It’s possible! For a plain yellow pumpkin to become a golden carriage! It’s possible! For a plain country bumpkin and a prince to join in marriage!(“Rodgers & Hammerstein’s Cinderella”)

“Love…is an open door.” (“Frozen”)“If you try to find rainbows far away, all the lovely lights will fade away.” Anna and the villain, Hans.

And some entertainment:


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